Ecclesiastes 3:1 “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven”
Many of us who have woken up to the true nature of the organization have a spouse who is still a true believer in the organization’s claim of being God’s one true channel. We may have tried almost everything to try to wake up our spouse to the truth. We’ve tried showing how many false prophecies the org. has made, how it was impossible that in 1918 the organization was chosen by God, how many procedures and teachings of the org. are unbiblical, all to no avail. Personally I’ve tried these things and tried to convince my wife to do an investigation so she would be able to make an informed decision. But my spouse and perhaps your spouse as well continues to put full confidence in the organization. What do we do?
“In like manner, you wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, in order that, if any are not obedient to the word, they may be won without a word through the conduct of their wives, because of having been eyewitnesses of your chaste conduct together with deep respect.” – 1 Peter 3:1-2, New World Translation
The above scripture is used repeatedly in Watchtower publications to define the role of a Christian wife who finds herself married to a husband who does not share her faith. The scripture advises women in such a situation that they can win over their husbands “without a word”, or by letting their actions rather than their words give evidence that faith can make one a better person. In no way does it command any wife who faces abuse from her non-believing husband to remain with him regardless, and endure a violent relationship in the blind hope that he will eventually embrace her faith and stop abusing her.
Many of us have mates that are not awake to the flaws and inconsistencies that we have discovered. They may refuse to even listen to what we have to say and it can hurt our feelings greatly. This varies in degree from marriage to marriage, but the primary thing for us to remember is this: Be as patient and loving with your wife or husband as you possibly can!
A few months ago my wife suggested we renew our vows for our upcoming anniversary.
“Great! Whatever you want babe I’d love to marry you again”, I responded. (No honest, that’s exactly what I said!)